What's New - Top 10 Ways to Avoid Commitment to Your Life's Work

Fellow certified coach Judith Duhl compiled this List of favorite strategies to avoid bringing your gifts to the world. This tongue-in-cheek perspective reveals our self-sabotaging tactics in a humorous, insightful way.

ONE: Trust your fears.

Imagine everything that can go wrong. Dream up your worst case scenarios
— don't dream small here.

TWO: Say YES to everything.

Fill your life with distraction and drama. Make sure you don't have any time to reflect. Go for frenzy!

THREE: Believe that there is no connection between mental and physical well-being.

Eat poorly and don't get exercise. Check out those reality TV shows and
late night reruns.

FOUR: Seek out relationships that are demeaning
to self-esteem.

Cultivate critical, stuck, depressed friends and authority figures.

FIVE: Strengthen your "Yes, BUT" muscle.

Start small here. Determine the lack of feasibility in anything that you are interested or excited by. For example: "I want to write, but I don't have a good pen." Or how about: "I'd love to be a singer, but I don't have a good enough voice."

SIX: Stick with the three Cs: Compare, Compare, Compare.

Compare yourself to others. Be relentless here. Allow the expertise
of others to undermine your unique vision and credibility.

SEVEN: Practice the Safe Step Method.

Don't risk anything. This is simple. If it's not a sure thing, then don't waste your time. And besides, risk is way over-rated.

EIGHT: Look backwards.

Determine goals and outcomes based on what has happened in your life in the past. A new motto to repeat when you get a tad visionary: If it hasn't happened yet, it ain't going to.

NINE: See only two choices in every situation.

Create two equally unattractive options. For example, "I can make good money in a job I hate, or do what I love and starve." And if you get tired of this, see your options as dependent on some future success: "I can do my life's work when I win the lottery."

TEN: Commit and move back.

As soon as you commit, immediately decide you need to do something different, like work at a dead-end job. At that point, go back to #1: Trust your fears.

Inward Bound Coaching is a powerful way to move past these perspectives, and say 'Yes'
to your life's work. Call Cathy Perry, PCC at
(404) 869 1550.